Marriage is not just about living together: Nadia Afghan

Nadia Afgan is no stranger to the television screen and has found that rare combination of critical acclaim and commercial success that every artist craves. In a recent interview, Afghan bared her soul to the world.

The host set the scene by highlighting the complex nature of Shamim’s character in her popular drama series Kabuli Pulao. “Sometimes Shamim angers us, sometimes we feel for her,” noted the host, reflecting the dichotomy that made Shamim a character that kept viewers hooked.

Afghan began by acknowledging that this interview was her first in two years since the hit dramas Parizaad and Suno Bag. She shared that in the past three to four months, her presence had become omnipresent on television screens, with various projects airing simultaneously.

While she herself confessed to not being an avid drama watcher, messages of appreciation for Shahana’s character in Suno Bag flooded her inbox. “One fan from India confessed that the drama was unknown to them, but now their whole family was hooked, a testament to the global appeal of Nadia’s art,” recalls Afghan.

The conversation took an interesting turn when she reflected on how Kashif, a well-known director, approached her, piquing her interest with the promise of an exciting role. However, the original character offered was not Shamim, but her older sister. It was the screenplay, penned by the honorable Zafar Miraj, and the play’s Lahore setting, apart from Kashif’s involvement, that lured Nadia into the play. Two days later, Kasif called again, offering her the role of Samim.

“Samim is someone who is capable of love, betrayal and a genuine desire to see others happy, which I believe is the epitome of true love,” Afghan said. Kashif’s storytelling ability and character conversations with the cast were instrumental in elucidating the complexities of Shamim and her relationships.

Nadia spoke about her initial apprehension about working with Ehtisham. It was Kashif who facilitated their in-depth discussions, an exercise that allowed them to delve into Shamim’s character. Shamim’s love triangle with Haji and Ilyas in the drama piqued the audience’s interest, stirring a mix of emotions. Nadia shared how she received messages from women dealing with the character’s struggles, and that they too had faced similar dilemmas when well-meaning mothers had set the scene for their relationships.

The couples’ chemistry and their ability to adapt to each other’s moods and idiosyncrasies was a recurring theme, a testament to the emotional complexities explored in the drama. She mentioned a particular quote that resonated with her: “It’s a beautiful experience to be loved by someone who, in the grand scheme of things, has no obligation to love you back.”

Nadia’s deft portrayal of Sameem also drew praise from industry colleagues, including Sharmad and Sania, who used superlatives like “amazing” to describe her performance. Nadia beamed with pride, acknowledging that her connection to the character was paramount, overshadowing considerations of cast, director or pay. she expressed. “When you become the character, it’s not about competition. it’s about doing justice to the role.”

The discussion turned to the topic of age differences in marriages. When asked if she believed that age was a determining factor in the success of marriage, Nadia Afgan firmly maintained that when there is respect and love between partners, age becomes an insignificant factor. With her husband, who is twelve years her junior, Nadia experienced a sense of maturity that went beyond mere numbers. He went on to explain that her strong belief in destiny was instrumental in their union.

Living together 24/7, she spoke of the differences that could arise in daily routines, such as being a daytime person while her husband was an owl. However, the foundation of friendship between them made all the difference. They had met through a project and participated in various welfare activities together. Her husband’s honest admission of his feelings for her sparked the journey to marriage. She quoted her husband as saying, “Marriage is not just about living together, it’s about growing up together.”

A crucial aspect of their relationship was the mutual decision not to interfere in each other’s families, an agreement that allowed each partner to maintain their respective relationships. Nadia recalled how her in-laws, though religious, accepted their marriage despite the age gap. She expressed her dismay at the double standards prevalent in society regarding such matters, stressing that individuals should have the freedom to make choices about their lives.

The discussion delved into the sensitive issue of not having children, an area that gave a deep depth to the debate. Nadia Afgan has revealed the emotional toll of experiencing two miscarriages. He said, “No one can understand the depth of this pain unless they have been through it.”

The pain was not only physical but also social, as social pressures compounded the trauma. She was candid about her in vitro fertilization (IVF) journey, which involved a grueling process, both mentally and physically. The decision to share her story was prompted by the countless women who contacted her after she went public with her experience. He encountered stories of tremendous resilience and hope.

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